Are You Searching for the Right Relationship?

Posted: January 11, 2012 in Articles, Religion
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I run into and talk to so many women that are searching for love and it just breaks my heart to see them “settle” for just a man instead of  “the” man that God intended for them to have.

Many women choose a man based on looks, money, fame, security both financial and physical.  Some choose one for what they can do for them, comfort, etc., and while all of these factors add some value in the relationship process they cannot and will never be a substitute  for the most important part of a relationship and that is seeking and finding God before you even step into one.

Truth is a man can never love you the way God intended for you to be loved if He is not a Godly man seeking after God himself and you fair maiden can never love a man the way God intended you to until you do the same.

God never intended for either partner in a relationship to be “walked on”, treated badly, abused mentally or physically, deceived or cheated on or as our Pastor (Pastor Rusty Nelson)  often says “God didn’t take woman out of man’s feet so that they could be walked on but from his side so that they can be a partner or helpmate.” 

While everything that I’m speaking on today can and should be used by men or women I’m speaking generally to women today because as I said before it breaks my heart to see them demean themselves by accepting far less in a man than she deserves as the “Princess” and co-heir to the throne with Christ that she is.

I would encourage you today young lady or mature woman to stop chasing after men and hapless relationships and start chasing after God. 

From our day of birth all human kind is programmed to want to be with God. Some are falsely taught that these inner longings are from other Gods, while others focus on themselves or material things/wealth, while many women unknowingly try to substitute this inner longing for a relationship with God with a man and sadly sometimes this can lead to horrible and even deadly consequences.

If this is you today and even if this is not you take heed to the words that you are hearing because God never lets a word from those that love Him fall to the ground or go to waste so if it’s not you it may be intended for you to pass along to someone else like it was to me.

SEEK GOD FIRST! 

Many of us can never love someone the way we should be loved because we don’t truly know how to love ourselves and come into every relationship that we have with the excess baggage from previous relationships that are always bubbling under the surface of our character ready to explode once a familiar situation arises.

For some it is unfounded jealousy, for some it’s anger, for some it’s an ever-present grief or “black cloud” in relationships that they cannot seem to shake for some reason but truthfully all of these things come back to the devil being able to have you speak or have someone else curse you with your words or others words over your life thus rendering you to a life of bad or just good relationships instead of the fulfilling relationship that God intended for you to have.

By seeking God first one finds out who she/he is supposed to be according to the true words that are spoken about God’s children in the Bible.  God never intended for us to be broken souls walking around in a dreadful wilderness of pain and sorrow. 

He intended for us to be able to grow through and praise Him through the painful times while we do the same in good times as our brother Paul said in the Holy Scriptures (Philippians 4:12: I know how to live on almost nothing or with everything. I have learned the secret of living in every situation, whether it is with a full stomach or empty, with plenty or little.).

Speaking to the woman who is reading this right now that knows this is you.  Stop what you’re doing and return your focus on seeking and finding God.  He knows that you don’t feel beautiful but you don’t see yourself in His mirror. 

He see’s you as individually beautiful as anything that He has ever created and He longs for you to come to Him so that He can teach you how to love so that you can be loved the way you should be and that is a Proverbs 31 woman but how will you ever know what that is if you don’t spend time with Him?.

When you stop giving Him “lip service” love and start spending time with Him getting to know His character, His vision for your life your focus will be off of men or even the man you’re with and the distractions that you yourself and our ever-present enemy (satan) proliferates into your life will begin to disappear and as the picture of Jesus becomes clearer the type of man who you’re seeking will change. 

 If your relationships always seem bad it’s because you’re looking in the wrong place to start because unlike men His love never fails and it’s only when you seek Him that He will raise up a Godly man for you that you’ll be able to depend and count on in tough times.

A Godly man will honor you, not beat or berate you.  A Godly man should respect you as much as He respects God.  A Godly man should cherish you the way God cherishes you. A Godly man will make you feel protected because as He walks in God’s will a hedge will be placed around you and your relationship so that when the storms come you’ll always know that a rainbow is just around the corner.

He loves you today young lady (and young man) and He wants you to know that He has someone special picked out and waiting for you but you hold the key.  Don’t let this world dictate to you what a relationship should be let God show you what it’s like to truly be loved because that is all that He knows how to do!

He loves you today.  He see’s your pain.  He knows all of the broken promises that you have endured.  He’s seen the heartbreak upon heartbreak that you’ve dealt with and He knows how to deal with it so that you can enter into a proper “covenant” relationship with Him and then you’ll be able to enter into a covenant relationship with one the He chooses for you but you hold the key.

 You are the “apple of His eye”, He is your gift if you accept Him.

I know that He has made and is still making me a better Husband, father, lover, and friend to my wife children and to those that are around me but it’s only because I seek Him and His love daily. 

Even if you’re in a bad relationship quit focusing on what’s not working and focus on the only thing that will work and that is the love of God as it has healing power if you will just let it into your heart.

Love Him today and I assure you that He will give you the desires of your heart.  Anything else and you’re settling for less!!!!

Ron “Big Black” Garrett

(Originally written:   (August 23, 2011)

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