Are You Courageous Enough And Willing To Be “That Man”?

Posted: May 22, 2014 in Articles, Religion
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Galatians 5:19 (ESV): Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality,

Ephesians 5:25 (ESV): Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,

1 Corinthians 7:1-40 (ESV): Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

Genesis 2:24 (ESV): Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

Proverbs 5:18-19 (ESV): Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love.

Matthew 5:32 (ESV): But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.

Men! Whatever the “god” is that is leading your life whether it is your work, your money, your “looks”, your lusts, or your pride will determine how you treat the woman, (the women, your children, or your family) and/or how you will lead them as a man in your lifetime.

None of these other “god’s” will teach you how to love them more, hang in with them when the going gets tough, still love them when they don’t appeal to your eye as they once did, still love them when they are not the “eye candy” that you proudly paraded in front of your friends in their youth before they bore you children and gave you the best years of their lives, nor will any of these other “god’s” teach you how to sacrifice yourself (your desires, your wants, your needs, your pride) for the woman that God has blessed you with as Christ did when He gave the ultimate sacrifice for you.

No my brother, only the God that is our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ can teach you how to be the man that you are supposed to be, how you should lead your family/household, how you should lead your family into a greater relationship in Christ, and how to be THE true, Godly leader of your household that you were designed to be.

Only Jesus can allow you to be “Wild at heart” (a book that EVERY man who aspires to be a Godly father/husband should read) yet still have a heart that is tender enough to properly love the woman that you have said that you “love” in your life and it is only He that will give you the strength to love Him more than her so that you can love her the way He intended and made you to love her.

I sadly admit that I have not always been the Godly man that my family deserved to have.

I can recount the pride, the selfishness, the greed, the hardness of heart, the childish ways, the un-Godly behavior, the unforgiveness, and the unwillingness to sacrifice for those that I claimed to love before I gave my life to Christ and He painstakingly yet lovingly changed my heart.

I am not perfect but I know that my family can trust in the fact that my lack of perfection does not come from a lack of trying to grow into the likeness of the “perfect” God who is Jesus Christ that I serve.

So I call upon the “brotherhood” today….we who call ourselves or any man for that matter who espouses to be “men of God” (serving and devoted to a life that seeks after Jesus Christ) to throw off the pride, throw off the selfishness, throw off the childish behavior, thow off the unfaithfulness, throw off the lusty heart, and replace these things with “growth” into the “likeness” of the Lord Jesus Christ.

When our time is up on this earth and we stand before the Lord and give an account for all that we have or have not done (all of us will) I am completely certain that God is not going to wink at you and compliment you on how handsome you were but He will, I’m sure, ask how you used your looks to attract people to His Kingdom.

I’m pretty sure that I don’t see Him complimenting you on the pride that you had in your vast wealth but I’m certain that He will ask you how you used it to further His Kingdom and how you used what HE blessed you with to take care of His business and YOUR family.

I’m certain that He will ask you to give an account of how and why you treated your family as objects that can be trivialized instead of the blessings that He blessed you with.

I’m certain that you will have to give an account for the number of women that you pride fully led into sexual sin or adulterous affairs (men are responsible to keep women pure, honorable, and not to bring shame upon).

Lastly, I’m certain that God is not going to pat you on the back and tell you “well done thy good and faithful servant” for all of the times that you only thought of yourself and left your family to physically and/or spiritually fend for themselves as you chased every evil desire that crossed your mind instead of allowing Him to lead you as you lead your family as He designed you to.

Let’s resolve today my brothers to first drop onto our knees, ask for forgiveness in the areas where we have failed our wives (families), ask Him to show us where we need help and to give it to us, repent of our past behavior so that we can start off fresh and new in His mercies which are renewed daily, forgive ourselves for failing our families, and start immediately walking away from all of the aforementioned things that cause us to be un-Godly leaders in our household so that we can be men that God will look at when we stand face to face at the end of our time and will say to us “well done thy good and faithful servant”.

God loves you and knows that you desire to be “that man” who leads his family in the way that He designed you to yet it will never happen until you as a man take the steps to do so.

Your family needs you to be “that man” and believe it or not you need you to be “that man” because it will enable you to be the best “you” that you were designed to be.

Have a Jesus-filled and blessed day!

By the hand of God’s humble servant and uniquely for all of my fellow warrior brothers out there,

Ron “Big Black” Garrett

For more consideration the following scriptures are provided:

1 Corinthians 6:18 (ESV): Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.

1 Timothy 3:12 (ESV): Let deacons each be the husband of one wife, managing their children and their own households well.

1 Timothy 5:8 (ESV): But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

1 Peter 3:7 (ESV): Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.

Colossians 3:16 (ESV): Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God.

Proverbs 31:1-31 (ESV): The words of King Lemuel. An oracle that his mother taught him: What are you doing, my son? What are you doing, son of my womb? What are you doing, son of my vows? Do not give your strength to women, your ways to those who destroy kings. It is not for kings, O Lemuel, it is not for kings to drink wine, or for rulers to take strong drink, lest they drink and forget what has been decreed and pervert the rights of all the afflicted.

Titus 2:1-15 (ESV): But as for you, teach what accords with sound doctrine. Older men are to be sober-minded, dignified, self-controlled, sound in faith, in love, and in steadfastness. Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.

1 Corinthians 6:19-20 (ESV): Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.

Genesis 1:27 (ESV): So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.

Galatians 5:22-23 (ESV): But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.

Isaiah 54:5 (ESV): For your Maker is your husband, the Lord of hosts is his name; and the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer, the God of the whole earth he is called.

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