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There are so many people who have no issue with not being on time for things be it work, lunch, meetings, etc. I’m not talking about when REAL things keep you from being on time like a TRUE health emergency, a TRUE car problem (if you know there is an issue with your vehicle take care of it…don’t put it off and then make an excuse), sitting in traffic due to a wreck (not talking about normal, heavy traffic…plan for it EVEN if you will be super early. Sit in the car and listen to 🎶 if you get to work too early.) or other TRUE emergencies (but realize that TRUE emergencies are not often ALL of the time and definitely NOT daily simply because YOU didn’t prepare for the next day’s task/work).

BE ON TIME!!!

Being on time is one of the best ways to put ones foot forward in any situation. I wrote the following as a comment about being on time to a friend as she was so proud of her son entering the workforce and being responsible.

“I’ve modeled this behavior for my kids for years and now that they are adults they now do the same.  

My mantra has always been that if you are five minutes early then you are five minutes late and what you do the day or night before will dictate your earliness or tardiness the next day. 

Lastly, I’ve always told them that there are very few excuses to be late and to be late FOR ANYTHING is akin to spitting in the face of the person, entity, customer, or business expecting you and basically telling them that their time is not valuable and that you don’t respect them as a man, woman, or business. ”

Rant over 😂

Ron “Big Black” Garrett

Matthew 6:15:  But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.”

People often ask me how I am able to “forgive” when I don’t feel like it. 

 Below is a prayer that I sent to a young person that has been through some hurtful situations lately. 

 God put this person on my heart so I reached out with the following as directed by Him and I hope that it helps someone. I started out saying this prayer and now I’m able to simply tell people that offend me that I forgive them to their face as I’ve grown if the situation warrants it or if God tells me to but know that the most important thing is to seek God and forgive the person to HIM in the very least as it may not always be a goodIdea to reapproach a person who is “hell” bent (literally…that is what it is) on hurting you. Again, I pray that this helps:

“(Content withheld) God put you on my heart with the forgiveness post that I put up specifically. You have to forgive those that have hurt you recently. This doesn’t mean that you forget what they did and continue to allow them to hurt you but you have got to forgive them. I always try to pray similar to this when doing what I’m speaking of here;  

Lord Jesus, You know that this person (name) or group (could be your work, a church or whatever entity) has hurt me and You know that I’m still hurting about what they did to me. I forgive them NOT because I feel like it but because of obedience to You and Your word. I pray for them right now through my hurt and ask You to bless them though I want to do nothing but curse them right now. Lord forgive me of wanting to not forgive them also as I want to be forgiven on the day of Your return. I lay this hurt (name it…what they did or that you perceive that they did to you) at Your feel Jesus for You to deal with on my behalf and I trust You to do it and when I don’t trust You in my heart for it please help me in my untrust. I thank You for the victory over this hurt and I love You Jesus and it’s in Your Holy Name I pray sweet Jesus. Amen!”

I urge anyone in a situation concerning unforgiveness to practice this since if we don’t forgive we won’t be forgiven by God. I have numerous people in my life (family members included) that I no longer communicate with due to the toxicity that they bring into my life but I have forgiven them and I can now through healing from Jesus over the years be cordial to YET ONLY interact with them due to their toxicity when God directs me to.

Ron “Big Black” Garrett

As I viewed the video in the link it took me back to traumatic incidents of racism NOT directed towards me by white folk but by many black people in my life who hypocritically cry racism everytime something happens yet fail to see the “log in” their “own eye” as Jesus teaches us in Matthew 7:3:  “And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own?”

During a “Save our sons” events sponsored by some great friends and brothers and sisters in Christ (the beautiful Melvin and Toya Poplar) which was designed to get people differing faiths, races, police, the media, and anyone else who cared to discuss how to stop the unnecessary deaths within our community via dialogue with the police but during the event we also discussed racism.

There was much helpful dialogue to be discussed at the event and it was very helpful to our local community as we discussed topics that people are afraid to discuss due to political correctness or due to fear of being “shamed” by their respective communities in trying to understand our differences and discuss the long held and often unspoken grievances that we often have against each other so that we all as creations of the same God can make progress towards solutions to race issues instead of bloviating nonsensically with no “fruit” to be shown for the seeds being planted.

One of the points that I made (that I later was informed by the participants in the meeting) that made most everyone of the group think about was that my VERY first experience with racism DID NOT come from “white people” BUT FROM within my own black community when people within my family would deride me as being “too black”, or that my hair was too “nappy”, or that i was “just another dumb, black nigger that wasn’t going to amount to nothing”, or that that they would “disown” me if I married a “white girl” and many other hateful things.
Now I would be remiss if I didn’t also note that MOST  of these same people went to church every Sunday and also  MADE me go to church and learn that God says we should “love” all people like Jesus does and “forgive” others when wronged but would get mad it me and even kick my tail for trying to live it.

These “Christians” never lived that life that I even as a “dumb bigger who wasn’t going to ever amount to nothing” could read the Bible and  understand how to live because when it came to forgiving white people for the past wrongs that some of their race did to our people they WOULD’NT forgive them and talked about ALL white people (and you Mexicans ain’t off the hook…they did and STILL talk about y’all horribly also) like a proverbial “dog” (and I apologize to dogs everywhere for bringing them in this) and even to this day many of these “church attendees” (who are bereft of the Spirit of God that I am in relationship with) have not changed and are still ruining the spirit of black folk with their “dumb nigger” and “yo hair is just nappy and no good” comments.

It was this hypocrisy among other things that let me know that i didn’t need to go to church because as far as I was concerned “Christians” were hypocrites so I quit going to church and didn’t trust Christians for years until i gave my life to Jesus INSTEAD of people and HE taught me how wrong these people who knew Him by Name only were.
I digress…The real problem here as it relates to what I and this beautiful young lady is saying here is one of the things that I have said for years and that is that the black community is ALSO responsible for my, her, and so many others feeling like this because of how we are told NOT by racists how “ugly” black is but even worse by the community that claims to love us.

We “yap” on and on about “racism” from other groups towards black people but hide the fact that in the black community we are made fun of if our hair is “too natural” (or “nappy” to keep it 💯), or if you are light-skinned you were called “high-yella” and depending on your location being “high-yella” could be helpful or a detriment in the black community.

AND…don’t you dare be very dark as this beautiful young lady is because they (we..I am Big Black ya know) endure some of the most horrific comments that goes past simple humor (which I have no problem with by the way).

Think I’m joking…i challenge all black women to get them chemicals out of your hair today and go “natural” and see what happens!

To this day I marvel at how beautiful the natural hair of a black person is in its varying thickness and textures (I also marvel at He beauty of He hair of ALL of f God’s children so don’t “trip” with me here, LOL).

YET most of what I hear from my community is people (mostly women) who as they try to “get back to their roots (pun intended) are harassed mercilessly by the very community that claims to be on their side in everything “black”.

I noticed this hypocrisy as a child and continue to witness it now as an almost half a century old black man and I smh (shake my head) that this nonsense is still going on.

If someone wants to perm or straighten their hair…fine…they should get no “guff” over it and if someone wants to go natural there should similarly be nothing said either.

Ron “Big Black” Garrett 

(The following clip shows what true forgiveness looks like so i again remind below in a comment that i posted on social media what God spoke into my heart about forgiveness:

Clip:  https://www.facebook.com/christianstrongbrand/videos/1844059032538124/

I posted some time ago what God spoke into my heart upon my salvation about what to say to the black community about forgiveness.

I said that the black community often says with their lips that we have “forgiven” YET our actions/words/deeds prove otherwise.

YES have been and are STILL being done wrong on many fronts BUT IF you are one with Christ YOU MUST TRULY forgive just as this brother did here EVEN if the other person doesn’t deserve it because you certainly didn’t deserve Christ’s forgiveness nor His Holy blood that was poured out for you as He died a horrible, gruesome death on the Cross for YOU AND THE PERSON OR PERSONS WHO “DID” YOU WRONG.

I can hear some black folk who claim to be Christian now as they watch this…”man he’s crazy, I wouldn’t have forgiven him after I went through all of that!” OR “I know what the Bible says but I couldn’t forgive that!” OR “this is what white people do so I can’t forgive nothing that they have done to me or my people!”

Well I used to have that same attitude UNTIL that day that God dealt with me about forgiveness and racism. He was curt with me that IF I could not find it in my heart to TRULY forgive that I WOULD NOT BE FORGIVEN NOR COULD I ENTRR HIS KINGDOM!”

Let that sink in Christians who are black…let that sink in.

You claim Christ but at every turn you show zero forgiveness towards the “white race” many whose ancestors did your people wrong and some who have done you wrong but also some who have never done you wrong and you expect that God is not going to be true to His Word when history proves otherwise that you will be Not forgiven if you don’t forgive?

I am baffled at the excuses, the lack of Godly wisdom that is overrided by “black pride”, and historical hurt that people who claim Christ can allow themselves to be so tricked by satan that they live lives with the same hate that they claim they hate and return “hate for hate” when the Lord that they claim as Lord tells them not to YET they behave as if it were a suggestion and not a command.

Not only did God instruct me to get rid of my black pride (“you cannot serve me as I intend you to with it”…his words) BUT I also had to repent of my prior unforgiving heart, attitudes, and actions (yes I would’ve been one of the current day race baiting rioters) toward people that i considered my enemy.

Once I did that in obedience JESUS opened my eyes to who the real enemy was and if ANYONE reading this has that same attitude that I spoke of a paragraph or two ago YOU ARE STILL BLIND and need to repent and ask forgiveness so that the proverbial scales can fall from your eyes so that you may be free from the unforgiveness that (hear me now) threatens your salvation.

This is why almost every time that I am blessed to preach to our youth I touch on “race” and “forgiveness” because we don’t need to raise another generation to have unforgiving hearts like the adults who bring them to and teach them in church to be “unforgivers” and therefore not passing on the truth that GOD will NOT forgive them if they don’t forgive others as Christ has forgiven them which is COMPLETELY and without “strings attached”.

I praise BOTH of these brothers because they truly understand what Jesus meant when He commanded us to forgive and I pray for this understanding to come to all of Jesus’s “followers”.
Ron “Big Black”

Garrett

I posted the following to a post that a dear brother in Christ shared on his Facebook page (link below) of words that Frederick Douglas penned about the church and since you all know me I had to add my thoughts and they are below but please first read he contents of the following link for context:

https://blogs.thegospelcoalition.org/evangelical-history/2017/02/02/one-of-the-most-haunting-paragraphs-i-have-read/
The irony in this piece here is that today’s church often still mirrors this as the church is more and more walking hand in hand with the slave-owners of today (ANY part of our society that is not submitted to Christ enslaves the people). 

The leaders on the church quite often collude and sell their souls and (as they lead them) the souls of their congregants to the highest bidder under the guise of serving Jesus for the “few pieces of silver” that corrupts their souls and leads “men” astray.  

As a young man I witnessed this and it was this that kept me from aligning myself with the church because I figured that I could do “bad” or what they were doing on my own.  

Some of the best “hustlers” that I’ve ever seen were church leaders as they hustled the spirit straight out of people with their anti-Christ behavior and false doctrines.  

Some of the most powerful pimps resided in the church as they pimped out men and women for their purposes instead of teaching them their worth as God intended them to do with the position that He put them in and some of the most sluttish prostitutes spew hate from their pulpits as they choose to genuflect in their “Jezebelish” ways before their true god satan INSTEAD of the One True God whose Holy Throne resides in Heaven.

Characters like these made me (and many others like me) run in a full sprint from anything “God”…..BUT GOD! My whole life I stayed away from the church BUT THEN I ran into “The Rock” (my home church The Rock Family Worship Center) as Pastor Rusty Nelson and people like you (Patrick Aube) my friend who simply serve as they are told to, who love people where they are like Jesus does, who never water down the gospel, who are not afraid to expose their imperfections and weaknesses to teach others how God makes them stronger through them, and how to lead others who have been hurt by the church back into the fold and then allowing Jesus to use that pain for His glory!  

How awesome is that?

Ron “Big Black” Garrett

 ‘Everyone thinks forgiveness is a lovely idea until they have something to forgive.’
C.S. Lewis

God has reminded me for the second time this week of what He put on my heart when He dealt with my “black pride”.  

He said “son, you cannot serve me the way that you are supposed to until you stop putting your “black pride” before MY Word and TRUTH. ANYTHING that comes before ME including your “black pride” is an “idol” and you know how I feel about them.”

Most importantly He reminded me that MOST black people who claim Christ as Savior CLAIM that they have forgiven whites for horrible slavery and racism BOTH past and present (AND vice vers sense racism goes both ways and ANYONE is capable of it) but their words and actions prove otherwise.  

The Bible is clear “forgive or you won’t be forgiven” God modeled how we are supposed to forgive when He gave us His Son Jesus to die for and as forgiveness of our sins.

He forgives us NO MATTER our sin and He doesn’t throw our sin neither past, present, or future back in our faces everytime that we do something wrong.  

Why does God not have me address the former slave-owner or racist?

Don’t know…don’t care…I stay in my lane and do what HE tell me to do and NOT what others including the black community tells me to do.

Mayhaps He chose me because I use to have a “taught” level of hatred of for whites that it took me to the brink of becoming so radical that I almost came to a point of hurting people who had no more connection to slave-owners or racism than I did to inventing the “wheel”.

So when God showed me the truth..I TRULY forgave and became “free” and when I asked Him why others like me don’t do the same He let me know that sadly there are many who know His Word and truth just as I do but they CHOOSE to continue to walk in the sin of unforgiveness and that I did NOT want to be in THAT “number” when the proverbial “saints coming in.”

Don’t “hate” the messenger!!!  

Well… even if you do I don’t care anyway so whatever.

Ron “Big Black” Garrett 

(Added: 

(The following is a comment that I made to a dear sister Bridges Hope as she thanked me for the article that God put on my heart as writing it brought me to tears as I recalled that time in my life:

 “Thank you my friend! When He first convicted me of this (JUST BEFORE He sent me to “bus ministry” and then youth…I know you remember those days) I was scared to death to say anything to black folk about it. But God was patient with me and at a Verge He finally released me to start writing so I knew it was time YET I still didn’t write about it for about two years. For a black man who is not afraid of much I knew the attacks that were going to come my way were going to be fierce because I used to treat people that way so I knew what was coming but I realized that Christ knew what was “coming” to Him before He went to the Cross to die for me yet He STILL did it anyway (I’m tearing up writing this) so fearful or not I knew it was time so I started writing and saying it and I’ve been free ever since. (I’m going to add this to it by the way)”

If you know me well you know that with my sense of humor one of the things that I find funny is that few people fail to understand why veterans are so vocal when they stand up for their rights. 

The reason that it seems that many of us have ice water in our veins when it comes to expressing ourselves is that for however many years we served we were often denied many of the very rights that many “civilians” in their apathy take for granted.

No “free speech”, “pursuit of happiness”…as long as it doesn’t hinder the mission, the right to “redress your government with your grievances”…ONLY if the grievances come about if they violate their oath or the law and then ONLY by taking it up the chain-of-command….etc., and so on…you get the picture and if you don’t you’re exactly who (the apathetic person) that I’m talking about).

So you see…if it seems that a service brother or sister seems to fight you harder than a “normal” person on an issue know that the first thing is that we are already used to fighting ( for your tail to express the very right you wish to deny him/her) and because we once volunteered to give up those rights now that we have them back we take them very seriously because we know how precious they are (one only knows how precious something is when it’s lost and found again).

Lastly, WE WILL ALWAYS BE SEVICE MEN AND WOMEN and we are always just a call away NO MATTER our age and physical limitations to “pick up a weapon” to once again defend this God-blessed nation and it’s ever-increasingly hostile against us peoples (smh…the very ones that we fight FOR) and our way of life.

So sleep well, warm, and cozy without a care in the world under the very “blanket of freedom” that every military man and woman has crafted for you.

A blanket that was sown with the blood, sweat, tears, and yes even deaths of those who run into the face of danger as you run back into your comfortable house peeking out of the curtain terrified because WE dare to face death as we face those who desire to destroy our way of life and take away our freedoms.

I leave you with one of the greatest quotes from one of my favorite movies (A few good men) that will sum up what I’ve said here:

Col. Nathan R. Jessep: “You cant handle the truth! Son we live in a world that has walls, and those have to be guarded by men with guns. Whose gonna do it you, you lieutenant Weinberg? I have a greater responsibility than you can possibly fathom. You weep for Santiago, and you curse the Marines. You have that luxury, you have the luxury of not knowing what I know, that Santiago’s death while tragic, probably saved lives. And my existence while grotesque and incomprehensible, to you, saves lives. You don’t want the truth because deep down in places you talk about parties; you want me on that wall, you need me on that wall! We use words like honor, code, loyalty, We use these words as the backbone of a life spent defending something, you use them as a punch line. I have neither the time,or the inclination, to explain myself to a man, who rises and sleep under the blanket of the very freedom that I provide, and then questions the manner, in which I provide it. I’d rather you just say ‘thank you’ and go on your way. Otherwise I suggest you pick up a weapon, and stand a post. Either way, I don’t give a damn, what you think you are entitled to!”
So I suggest you just say “thank you” and be on your way!

Ron “Big Black” Garrett